Our personality type creates the "Style" in which we tend to operate in this world.
However, our level of "Consciousness" is the primary factor that determines the types of choices we ultimately make.
Learning about personalities and how the different types relate to each other, is fundamental in understanding Human Behavior and Relationships. It is also a safe place to begin the self-awareness process because our personality type is not crucially important, they merely "color" or give style to the way in which we operate in this world. Ultimately, they don't really have a huge impact on our "Quality of Life" or the way we experience and perceive the world around us.
We have found that looking closely at oneself is a daunting and sometimes scary endeavor, so this superficial yet profound study of human behavior can be an important first step in starting the self-awareness process. In addition, we have found it's easier to see in others what might be difficult to see and accept in ourselves, so learning to accurately decipher another's personality type along with their characteristics, insecurities, fears, habits, and social conditioning, can help you to see and accept the traits you may have in common.
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What we believe to be true about life and ourselves, we project onto the world around us. Therefore, a change in how you perceive yourself will change how you see and interact with the world around you.
At the end of my first marriage I began to study personality types and I found it extremely helpful to understand that many of our differences were part of our "nature" instead of being something learned. This understanding helped me realize that this was an inherent, pre-determined part of being human. Once I realized this truth and accepted those differences, instead of trying to change them, a sense of peace began to permeate my state of being. Of course that acceptance didn't mean I stayed in my marriage, it just meant I finally accepted the reality of the situation. Then I could consciously choose to either stay in the relationship and accept the way it was or move on. I can't tell you what a relief it was to be dealing with reality instead of the previous twelve years of not understanding who I was dealing with. As I began to understand personality types and my current situation, this knowledge eventually helped me recognize the kind of partner I did want to be with.
In addition to our personality types, the individual will take on either an Adult or Child Role that adds another dimension to the character they play in this production we call "Life". These attributes and traits make us more unique thereby giving us a broader view and experience of the human condition.
What we need to work on and understand about ourselves will be reflected back to us from others. What you dislike in them, is typically what you want to change about yourself. Keep in mind that the ego is very clever in disguising these similarities.
There are many aspects to each personality type and we tend to incorporate a little bit of all of them within ourselves to some degree or another. In other words, we all share the same traits but certain traits may be more dominate in one person than another. It's these dominate traits that determine what type you are.
Typically we label or describe each type with a vague word or term because there isn't one particular description or characteristic that completely captures the essence of any of them. For example, we've all heard someone being referred to as an "A" type which primarily means ambitious, controlling, aggressive, etc., but even though these words might describe some of their primary characteristics, they don't describe everything about that individual. In fact, Deniece and I have learned that our personalities play a very small role in the overall picture of how our lives are experienced and lived.
In addition, it's important to understand that personalities can color the choices we make, but our level of consciousness actually determines the types of choices that will be available to us to choose from. In other words, when you know better you choose better or as I like to say, "when you know differently you choose differently". As consciousness increases, our spiritual filter becomes clearer thereby aligning us more with reality, Universal wisdom, and our spiritual path. It can be very useful to understand the superficial differences between our personalities and our human conditioning, but it's your level of consciousness that constitutes the amount of peace and happiness you experience, along with how you tend to operate in the world.
David R Hawkins is the leading authority on the subject matter of consciousness and we highly recommend all of his work for anyone who is becoming conscious of reality. His work includes the creation of the "scale of consciousness", the use of kinesiology, and the deep explanation of the human condition and how consciousness affects our life experience.
Given that our personalities have only a superficial impact on the choices we make, it is still helpful to understand how they personalize our lives and affect our relationships. We put these personalities on like a costume from the time we are born to play our role in life. We also keep these costumes on for the remainder of our lives without changing types. When we understand these simple differences between us, we are better equipped to navigate our way through life because we will now start to accept the differences in others as the way life is rather than trying to change everyone to be more like ourselves. This understanding and acceptance of how people are is one of the keys to making our journey through life much more enjoyable!
Taylor Hartman's book The Color Code, was one of the first books my wife and I studied together at the beginning of our relationship and at the start of becoming consciously aware of the Awakening Process. In his book Taylor Hartman describes the different personality types, then he color codes them for easier reference. You begin Hartman's work by taking a test to help determine which "color" you are, then you learn about all the personality types in detail and how each of them relate to one another. How the different types related to each other was the part that led to the eventual disillusion of my first marriage and the catapulting into an intensive study on human behavior and development.
Hartman color codes the personality types symbolically for easier reference. To take his free "test" to determine which type you are or to learn more about this subject matter, we recommend visiting his website at www.colorcode.com
It's important to understand that your personality type merely colors the choices you make, in other words it's the style in which you operate, but it's your consciousness level that determines your level of happiness and the way in which you tend to conduct yourself. For instance, someone who would kill another typically operates at a lower consciousness level than someone who wouldn't. When Taylor Hartman refers to being "charactered", he is basically talking about a person who naturally tends to incorporate a good balance of healthy attributes from all four personality types. For Deniece and myself, "charactered" implies a higher level of consciousness in the individual which is why they naturally have a good balance of healthy attributes from all four types.
One slight discrepancy is Hartman's description of White's. He describes them as having excellent clarity, but clarity has nothing to do with your personality. Clarity stems from consciousness and every personality type encapsulates all the levels of consciousness within them equally.
The four main personality types are color coded by Taylor Hartman as:
Our type, along with our consciousness level, and our unique personal circumstances, allow us to experience individuality amidst millions of other people.
Before the age of thirty, I didn't understand how personalities could make such a difference in each individual, but once I discovered Taylor Hartmans book, my life and my relationships began to make a lot more sense. In addition, many of the questions I had about Human Behavior started to get answered. Next came the hard part of applying what I was learning to myself, my relationships and my current painful circumstances. This was the beginning of my Awakening Process, or rather when I became aware of the awakening process happening in my life.
As you begin to determine the personality types of others I discovered it helps to have someone doing it with you so you can compare notes and debate any differences between your conclusions. This will help ensure that you will be less likely to let your own prejudice and emotions alter your understanding. While determining other people's types, try to remember that the most important thing, is to know and understand your own! That being said, we will include a short list of famous people in the linked "Blue, White, Yellow, and Red" pages for you to compare and analyze. Although we don't know these individuals personally, we have picked them because we feel relatively certain about the type they are.
"The best defense against the development of anger is to see others as equals, lessen expectations, and via humility, surrender the fulfillment of one's wants to God. With progressive detachment and relinquishment of the ego's demands and expectations, anger diminishes." David R Hawkins
"Reality needs no agreement. Reality is not an acquisition, but is instead a purely spontaneous, subjective realization when the positionalities of the dualistic ego are surrendered." David R. Hawkins
"Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept themselves, to like themselves." Bonaro W. Overstreet
"If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people." Virginia Woolf
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