True friendships will always tell you the truth,
even if that "Truth" is painful.
"True Friendships" can provide an excellent opportunity for spiritual guidance and self-awareness, because they can give you tremendous insight and information into your character. All of our relationships are spiritually orchestrated to mirror ourselves back to us, but close friends may provide even deeper guidance by couragously sharing more sensitive material. Even if you are unwilling or unable to hear this information at first, if it is given it was clearly time for you to be exposed to it otherwise you wouldn't have had the message delivered unto you. Since close friends are more familiar with you, they can see things that casual acquaintances typically don't and their love for you encourages them to tell you what you really need to hear.
A good friend can tell you almost anything without permanently damaging the relationship beyond repair which makes it possible to hear things said to you that most people wouldn't say due to use of so called "proper etiquette". I believe this type of social conditioning does a huge disservice to us all. A disagreement among friends could make you part ways for a time but reconciliation typically occurs, where as
Romantic Relationships are less likely to reunite once the union has disintegrated to the point of separation.
I believe healthy Romantic Relationships either start out as friendships, or they develop in to one during the course of the relationship. If you're not close friends at some point, then I don't believe you have a healthy partnership that will continue to grow. Staying with someone for long period of time does not mean that the relationship is healthy, it just means your time together isn't finished yet because you still have things to learn from one another.
Deniece and I were very close friends for two years before romance began to flourish. Had we not been, it's likely our relationship would have dissolved. We endured some extreme circumstances at the beginning of our relationship, and without a solid bond and foundation that was built on friendship, I believe those hard times could have been too much for us to bear.
If the friendship is destined to go beyond romance, your relationship could be what we call a Spiritual Partnership. A spiritual partnership is when the individuals involved are consciously choosing to help one another become self-aware and conscious of reality by transcending the ego. Of course every relationship is designed for this purpose but when you are deliberately choosing it with another, your progress typically becomes accelerated and more defined towards the ultimate goal of enlightenment.
I noticed that whenever my "life path" took me in a new direction, my Relationships would tend to dissolve as my personal circumstances changed. This was especially true once I began to awaken because I noticed that even my closest friends struggled with the changes I was going through which in turn led to a change in the dynamic of the relationship. It was simply hard for them to embrace the "new me". In fact my identical twin brother once told me after my life had taken a new direction that he wanted the "old Travis" back.
Taylor Hartman's book "The Color Code" is very helpful in understanding our differences as it pertains to our different Personality types. Follow this link www.colorcode.com to see Taylor Hartman's website.
Most friendships have a shelf life. And in today's world, with innovations like the Internet, we can stay in touch over limitless long distances. But there is still no substitute for face to face contact. The people you share actual space with have a better opportunity to mirror yourself back to you because they get to see how you act in everyday situations with your guard down.
I cherish all the friendships I have had, even the ones that dissolved through negative or challenging circumstances. After beginning the Awakening Process, I have now come to see that everyone who has ever been a part of my life, is my friend. This includes the people I once considered my worst enemies!
Everyone is here to support me, and each person has something unique to offer me that promotes my conscious growth and personal self-awareness.
We are all united in the common goal of increasing consciousness on this planet and no matter what your particular role is, we all help each other to accomplish our ultimate goal of reaching enlightenment.
When it comes to thinking about friendships or even brief and casual relationships, remember that God has only sent us Angels to help guide us on our journey through life.
To see more information on all four personality types go to our Personalities web page.
"We are all longing to go home to some place we have never been, a place half-remembered and half envisioned, we can only catch glimpses of from time to time. Community. Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion without having the words catch in our throats. Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us, eyes will light up as we enter, voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power. Community means strength that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done. Arms to hold us when we falter. A circle of healing. A circle of friends. Someplace where we can be free."
"It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship."
Henry Ward Beecher
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